The biggest issue for me has always been the drive and determination to do what needs to be done. I have a lot of steps laid out for me to follow over the next...uh, lifetime...but I'm three days into it and I can already feel my resolve weakening. I've been lazy today. I haven't read anything and my mind has mostly been a big blob instead of being constantly focused. I know I can't expect to jump into this and be perfect right away. Discipline takes time to build. It's hard. It's grueling. I'm sure the fact that it's bothering me that I haven't done all I feel I should today is a good thing, but it doesn't comfort much.

God has done some amazing things though. I can't think of a time where I've been so joyful in the face of such sorrow before. I've never been one to hold in feelings, but I've been able to funnel those into my dealings with God instead of venting them to anyone and everyone who will listen. Yes, I do find myself weak at times and I'll start talking to whoever is around, but I don't fall apart like I used to in the same type of situation anymore. God is truly growing me, and I pray he will continue. It won't be easy, but it is necessary and glorious.

It's only been slightly over 24 hours since I found the bottom. I must have studied for 5 hours yesterday, and I've been studying for an hour or so today. The wealth of comfort that comes from reading the word is like none other. Feeding the flame that I long to keep burning forever. Still, the fear of it being quenched still lures in the recesses of my mind. Why is it that our minds tend to think over the many possible negative outcomes? Why can't we just keep our eyes focused on God and let him control the outcome of our steps as we journey closer to him?

Learning at all the ways God has intended love to be has been an amazing experience. I've always known God wanted love to be expressed in so many different ways, but I'd never looked at all of them in such a short time. Friendly love, family love, romantic love, sexual love...so many different facets to the glories of God in our lives. Love is something we covet and long for so much that we forget the way it was intended. We long for this highs and euphoria of love and we search it out through any means we can get it and most of them are artificial means. We get fearful when we don't know when our next "fix" will be coming, we get controlling when we think it might be the last time we feel the warmth of love's embrace, and we get psychotic on the artificial love-drugs we create for ourselves through un-Godly relationships, window panes of affection, and over-analyzing situations.

We can search our entire lives for the real love God has intended, but we will never find that satisfying cup until we learn to look to the one who put the craving in us to begin with. Only God holds satisfaction because only he knows what satisfies those that were created in his image. We all yearn for it, most of us know of it, but few of us take the steps to receive it.

I'm an Infant

I feel like I’ve failed as a man. Before now that is. I had a revelation this past weekend that I’m hoping will change my life forever. So many people theorize about what a man is/should be, and I think I finally found the answer I’ve been looking for. It came out to sound very simple to me, but it’s definitely not going to be easy to do. I’ve always had two sides. On one side (the side most people see), I’m caring, loving, and an all-around great guy. I’ll do anything for a friend and love on anyone who needs it. But, the other side of me was getting increasingly jealous and controlling of those I loved most. Having not found that one person to spend my life with made me bitter and very suspicious of anyone special who came into my life. I wanted to keep a tight reign on them because I was always afraid of loosing them. My controlling nature would come out of a loving heart and make it appear to be one of disgust, jealousy, and anger. For those who know me, this is not who I am at all. I hated this part of myself. I hated it so much I would sacrifice my relationships as soon as I felt it coming up because I knew it would just end them with heartache and suffering despite my true desire of having a loving relationship. I can't believe I’ve missed this for so many years now.


Realizing this is not the solution though. Learning the destination isn’t even the first step in a journey. I have a lot of work ahead of me in my quest to become the man God has intended for me to be. I truly feel like this is the main area he has wanted me to work on and figure out. A man has to know how to be strong without being controlling. A man has to know how to be loving and fierce at the same time. A man has to know how to set boundaries without limiting those he loves. Being a man is all about walking a very fine line that cannot be seen by human eyes. This line can only been seen by God and he is standing at the end of it gesturing to me like a father to his infant son saying “c’mon, you can do it, just walk to me.”

Just an Update

So, I haven't been on here in forever. I guess because there hasn't been much going on. I'm constantly working, going to church, or just sitting at home. That's pretty much all I do. I have the occasional event with friends, but nothing too exciting that I can remember off hand.

I've been thinking about buying a house recently. With the market down and a secure job, it is very tempting to jump on one of the many great deals out there. It'd be taking on a lot of responsibility though. I think I'd enjoy most of it (it being MY house after all), but if I'm going to start school again in the fall, continue working towards my DB2 certification, continue doing all I do at church, and have free time...I might not be ready for something like that (a dog would be really nice too). I'll just have to keep saving and watch the market to see what shows up. I'm scared to over-extend myself (I have a tendency to want the nice things NOW), and I am nervous about the economy...but I do feel secure in my job, so.........oh, IDK. I guess I'm doomed to go back and forth on it. Typically when I'm doing that, I just don't do anything. Any advice would be nice. My lease is up in August, so I have until then to make my decision on whether to just stay at my apartment.